It is not the easiest journey, but a determined one for myself and my family. After giving birth to a child and having two step-daughters who have gone through so much, something clicked inside myself to overcome certain tendencies and create a better mindset for myself and for them.
Positivity stems from our thoughts and way of thinking, as well as learning to be mindful and self loving. Seeing my self in a better light then I have in the past is one of the biggest differences I have made and has truly changed my own behavior and outlook. Focusing on your good qualities and strengths despite any mistakes or past is truly a super power to motivating you in carrying out the effort in building a more positive outlook and coping skills.
I still have days I am down, days I am angry and frustrated with others, days I feel insecure and hurt. Sometimes it stems from past experiences with others that have caused distrust and sometimes it is simply the ups and downs of motherhood and life. Despite those days, I have managed to keep reminding myself of the good and in refocusing my thinking.
This week is a start of implementing new steps into keeping up my transformation into a more positive person and life:
1.) Disconnecting from social media such as Instagram. It is like FB in becoming a time waster and getting caught up in likes, no likes and so on. I need the ability to feel more focused instead of distracted and this is one way I feel I personally can accomplish that. My goal is to start with two to three weeks detox and then work on only using Instagram once a week instead of everyday.
2.) Put forth even more time with my 18 month old daughter and in creating learning activities for her much developing brain. The importance of keeping up with the milestones and giving the best start of learning is one of my priorities I would like to give better in.
3.) Taking advantage of focusing on my thinking and self love so as to overcome the anxieties that still creep up. And in doing so, continuing to encourage more positive thinking with my step-daughters. Also, finding a way to build my confidence when around certain people so as to give out an even better kindness.
4.) Working on my mindfulness and taking in the good moments. Help me to dwell on the good around.
The deep rooted motivator to all of this is simply watching the effects of negative thinking within others, the effects of negative thinking even within myself and how much I do not want that for my own daughter. Recognizing through simple observation how other people’s behavior and way of thinking can truly effect our thinking and instill negative habits or behavior. I want to prove to be better than that for my child. Prove that we ourselves have the power to change a circumstance instead of wallow and blaming others. That wonderful power of Perspective!
So, I choose to be that positive mother who encourages seeing the good in others and not always focusing on mistakes or flaws. The one who helps her daughter find strength in herself, not letting her second guess everything because of some unnatural fear that something is always wrong. I will be the mother who will recognize that some situations and days may be sad, hard, difficult and aggravating, but will always help redirect her perspective from focusing too much on those feelings. I will nonstop include spiritual aspects in her life and teach self awareness; that not everything is because of others, but that we ourselves can play into a situation and need to show true integrity in owning up to our own mistakes and imperfections. That it’s okay if we do make mistakes as long as we learn from them. She will be taught to not involve herself in negative and unwholesome drama focused on gossip. I will be there to help her accept that she doesn’t have to be perfect, she can and will make mistakes, but that never means she is less of a person because of it. In doing so, I hope to help her accept the imperfections of others instead of needing to always judge what someone says or does. I will give a healthy sense of adventure and allow her to grow into the person she wants to be, without creating unnecessary fears that could stop her from what she can do or experience.
I choose to be a more positive and grateful person for my daughter!
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